just be it Just Be It is a practice of presence that recognizes the limits of language. When aware of silence there is a state of inner still alertness. You are wholeheartedly present.

Do I wake with a “to have” list, worried about what I might lose or what I don’t have?  Or do I know I own nothing, am entitled to nothing, filled with joy for access to wealth through awareness?

Do I wake with a “to do” list, worried about a sense of worth through my ego’s satisfaction with getting the approval of others, or bettering someone in my actions?  Or do I align my “doing” with a sense of “being”?

Do I wake with intention to just be, fully here, fully now, wholeheartedly engaged in my moment to moment living, with intentions to aim for no harm, mindfully aware of the positive and negative seeds I tend to water, aiming to wholeness and healing?

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While it’s often dangerous to simplify contrasts to a binary view, nature seems to work this way. The way we approach life can often be broken down to one of “subject” or one of “subject vs. object”. This is central to the delineation Just Be It makes between directing our actions from heart’s ‘being’ in contrast to mind’s ‘doing’. Some of the delineations are listed below:

Here, now, interconnected. vs Not here, before or after, separated.

Healed, sense of wholeness. vs Dis-eased, fear.

At peace with Being. vs Restless to Do.

Largest sense of belonging without surrender of identity from smaller group’s belonging. vs. In fear that the smaller group will be threatened from differences

Embraces change and uncertainty with equanimity. vs Attempts to stop change with forceful methods

Values authority demonstrated through deep listening and understanding. vs
Values authority demonstrated through strong belief systems and judgment

Values Laws of Nature as demonstrated through ever evolving laws of science and integration with ancient spiritual wisdom. vs Values cognitive belief systems passed down through second hand information

Listens to understand. vs Speaks to persuade, refusing to openly listen

Dialog vs Debate and argument

Collaborative. vs Persuasive

Love/gratitude/ joy base. vs Fear/scarcity/anxiety base

Healing and stewardship approach to health. vs Prevention and cure approach.

We’re continually engaged in verbal chatter, whether with others or in our own heads. I find it very helpful to train to breaks from this chatter, whether through meditation, yoga, sport, or music. It may not last long, but it gives rise to awareness of the illusion to our separateness. I just found some notes from a retreat we did in Wisconsin with the Madison police force and a group of Vietnamese monks. Here’s a copy of those notes:

Thich Nhat Hanh

Meditation – Breath in – still waters
Breath out – I reflect clearly

Breath in – I’m space
Breath out – I’m free

If the mind is so preoccupied so there’s no space, you have nothing to offer. Most precious thing you can offer beloved ones is space. You must have space around you to be happy.

Dharma talk
Right thinking – reflects the situation as it is. Thinking that helps you understand more deeply. To be loving, compassionate and free.
Wrong thinking – urges you to blame another for all your difficulties.

You and the nature of love are impermanent. No one can swim in the same river twice, it’s always changing.
Our son is our continuation, he carries me into the future.

Law enforcement – a code of behavior that aims at producing harmony and peace. You cannot be taught through anger and authority.

A family should be organized as an organism. 1) protecting itself 2) healing itself
Mindfulness is our agent of protection and healing much like an immune system. Without mindfulness we bring into our bodies/family a lot of toxicity.

When talking with those who preach anger, violence, and fear, simply tell them, “I’ve heard enough of that, let’s talk about positive things.” There must be a code of behavior everyone accepts. Understanding is the very foundation of love. Do you take the time to look and understand? Can you handle yourself with compassion and understanding?

The origins of the word ‘sin’ come from the concept of ‘missing the mark’. So when do we miss this mark? It would seem we miss the mark when we cause harm to ourselves, others, and the environment. When we place concern for our special interests over the harm caused to others, we miss the mark. The core of most spiritual traditions arises from a deeper awareness to the connection of all things. When we can wake up to a ‘bigger belonging’ we’re more careful. We can retreat into our smaller belonging from fear and greed or expand into larger circles of belonging from the felt emotion of compassion and love. When we ‘wake up’ to infusing our actions, thoughts and emotions with a deeper consciousness that periodically smashes the illusion of our separateness, our actions cause less harm. The wake of our life is not so destructive. We leave a gentler footprint that hits that high mark of love. When we sever our sense of belonging, our actions, thoughts and emotions can be toxic. Where our sense of belonging stops is where our violence begins. The root of ‘to heal’ is found in the word ‘wholeness’, to wake up to our sense of oneness.

Toxic was chosen for 2018 because it was so frequently used to describe poisons governments used against humans, the toxic impacts of industry on the air we breath, and the apparent rise of separateness in our cultures as we respond to accelerating changes in technology, climate and global interactions. No doubt, these are very difficult times where multiple options must be explored to determine which actions will best steward the situation and the future of our children. Our options close when we harden to our opinions and beliefs. They expand when we can sit together in silence and briefly touch that space of expanding belonging before we begin to speak.

It’s my hope that the word for 2019 will be ‘stewardship’ or ‘nurture’. As we face impermanence and rapid change, will we come together? Can we move from persuasion, defensive listening and nonproductive debate to dialog? And if we can’t bring ourselves to dialog, can we at least sit together in silence, aiming together to hit the mark, accepting and stating that we don’t know everything? Toxic is that which harms, moving us from health to a lack of ease in living (dis-ease). Can we move to a higher vibration of stewardship, expanding our circles of belonging or will we let fear and greed feed the illusion of our separateness. Will we feed fear and greed, negative thoughts and emotions, and consequent actions that are toxic to others and our environment? Or will we recognize the tremendous gift of our very being and the responsibility we have to nurture others and our planet as ourselves, forever sensitive to impact? Infusing our ‘doing’ with the core of an awakened ‘being’, we are more careful, causing less harm and hopefully contributing to our healing rather than to the wounding.

Abraham Maslow is often credited as the father of transpersonal psychology. This field was just beginning to bloom in the late ’60’s when I was taking courses in abnormal psychology. It dealt with how we can move beyond normal to higher levels of functioning as human beings. Given today’s climate of violence, it seems helpful to examine the ‘privilege’ of exploring ‘beyond normal’. He studied several people who excelled in human performance and came up with the following basic needs as prerequisite for moving to the highest level, self actualization. Some have referred to this as ‘waking up’.

The basic needs for survival are food and shelter followed by a sense of safety. Certainly, refugees fleeing the chaos of failed states are caught in this basic needs dilemma and we can understand the southern African and Central American migration as our refugee population has exploded to over sixty million people. The next basic need is belonging. We all may know what it’s like to enter a new community without a sense of welcoming. Certain populations now struggle as their tribe seeks belonging into a tribe of difference. In today’s society, with the explosion of technology, the effects of dramatic climate change, and radical changes in markets due to globalization, our capacity to adapt to these changes depends upon our skills at expanding our circles of belonging. There are those today who are filled with fear about these changes. They seek to protect ‘their tribe’ from other tribes. Some have referred to this as ‘nationalism’ vs. ‘multilateral’ orientation. No doubt, change is a huge challenge as our populations explode. Some will attempt to stop this change with antiquated legislation, border walls, outdated military spending, and inhuman methods in providing food, shelter and a sense of belonging to millions of humans suffering deep pain from lack of these basic needs.

I write this as a human of privilege. I wake each day in gratitude for the basic needs of food, shelter, and a broader sense of belonging. I maintain that anyone who has these basic needs met is in the category of privilege. Without them, it’s hard to move on to a larger sense of belonging. He then mentions the importance of self esteem. It’s hard to move to awareness when we’re filled with negative thoughts and emotions. Yet, when we can release our fear of the concept of ‘other’, grow our sense of community beyond difference, and pursue a spiritual path beyond concept or thought, we can begin to touch that creative space of ‘self actualization’. It’s a space where we can empty of attachments to being ‘right’, surrender our notions of the ‘right tribe’, ‘right religion’, ‘right politics’, and truly begin to explore the open mind. Whether in Christian mysticism, the Sufi tradition, a variety of Indigenous practices, Eastern spiritual practices, etc., when we explore beyond the words of religion we wake up to a bigger, deeper belonging. The self actualization is really a sense of the small self (ego) surrendering into big Self. As this happens the human being actualizes to the consciousness of non duality. Effectively, the awareness at this moment moves one from fear and greed to love and compassion. The awareness of interconnection, all things connected, is no longer a linguistic concept. The human can surrender in awareness to inevitable change (impermanence) and experience the felt awareness of Big Belonging. Maslow describes this creative moment as ‘peak experience’. Spiritual teachers describe this as an experience we can bounce in and out of as we continue the journey of self actualization.

Today, as humans push fear and resistance to change, the motivation and intention to ‘wake up’ becomes central to the stewardship of our planet. With the wake up comes awareness to move from complaint and persuasion, from special interest politics, from dogmatic interpretations of government, education and religion, to a flexibility and openness to meet rapidly accelerating changes in our world. The open, creative, flexible mind has the courage to temporarily suspend belief systems with the aim for ‘best for all, harm to none’.

By linguistic definition, anytime we try to persuade (change) someone to our line of thinking, there’s an underlying violence. As we approach another election, as emotions heat up, and as we attach to what we ‘think’ is right, we’re more and more filled with anxiety. So how can we maintain a sense of balance? How can we aim to at least not cause each other harm? How do we return once again to that deeper knowing that we’re not separate, touching the true spirit of all of our great spiritual teachers? No doubt, we’re walking a razor’s edge if we’re hoping to stay engaged in these disruptive, fast changing times. For me, that answer lies in training to temporarily suspend my belief in thinking I know, thinking I’m right and you’re wrong.

Yesterday I met up with a friend who’s dedicated himself to balance training in active lifestyle sports. Twenty years ago I bought a gyro machine from him that helped train my body to throw momentum in various directions as I spun in full axis, all directions. He has worked in gymnastics and has been instrumental in the promotion of the Snake skateboard. He described his work as training people to “deliberately fall without hitting the ground”. It captures the joy of the boardsports and music I play. The real joy comes when the action unfolds outside the verbal mind. There’s an emptiness of mind, a complete letting go, that happens when fully surrendered to the arc of the turn. A famous trumpet teacher once said, “When the mind leaves the tone, obstacles appear.” My latest passion is windsurf foiling and this concept played out beautifully last week. I completed a fluid turn without thought, fully abandoned to any notion of separateness from the event. I had let go the concept of ‘me’. My watersport friend came up behind me and complimented me for the turn. I immediately lost balance and crashed, my ego bringing me back into separation. It seems that most times, when I ‘think’ I’m pretty good, I crash. So how is it that our creative performance comes when we’ve practiced deeply only to ‘let go’?

I heard someone say they like to lead a conversation with friends with the following question, “When you realize all your beliefs have been undermined, what’s left?” That captures the essence of peak, no mind, creative performance. A Zen teacher once called this “Big Hope”. Today’s political climate, a conflict driven news media, and radical change in climate, technology, and globalization challenge us deeply to hold that ‘Big Hope’. There seems to be momentum to give up as we all struggle to maintain a higher vibration. It’s frustrating to continuously fail in our efforts to change one another. Again, by definition, it’s got the smell of violence and most of the time ends in negative emotion, both parties separating in anger. I like the wisdom of, “when the problem seems big, get bigger than than the problem”. This is where real spiritual practice lies, expanding our circles of belonging through the confidence in letting go our fixed notions of ‘thinking we’re right’. Can we let go in a deliberate fall, knowing we won’t hit the ground? That’s the essence of dialogue.

Many of the Eastern martial arts carry this wisdom of letting go. They can be extremely physical, yet in truth, are purely spiritual. Aikido may capture this best with a literal meaning of “harmony spirit way”, or poetically “the way of harmonizing with the spirit of the universe”. The famous author, spiritual and martial arts teacher, George Leonard, writes:

“With ancient samurai roots, it (aikido) is a radical reform of the samurai tradition, seeking not victory over others but rather, in the founder’s words, “the loving protection of all beings”. Its techniques can cause severe damage or even death, but its heartfelt aim is peace and harmony.” from Introduction to “The Way of Aikido”

There were times when politicians knew how to listen deeply for understanding. There were times when people trained deeply to communicate with one another from an open mind, surrendering notions of ‘thinking they were right’. We’re now in a time that challenges us all to find that ‘Big Hope’ that moves us to expanding circles of belonging, beyond the illusion of our separateness. As long as we hold to our notions of special interest and ‘rightness’, violence will grow. Our spiritual challenge is to approach politics as a martial art, forever carrying the intention and motivation to “harmonize with the spirit of the universe”. This is the essence of the higher vibration, what our spiritual teachers call moving to light from the darkness, and what our fore fathers of this nation called our surrender to Divine Providence. We’re all being worked, all being challenged to aim higher than our limited belief systems. Our real faith will be found in our capacity to explore with one another the question of what’s left when we’re deeply looking beyond our beliefs? This is where we can either hold to our notions of ‘fixing or solving the Mystery’ or we can ‘befriend the Mystery’ in full surrendered creative action, thought and emotion.

The Map Can Never Be the Territory and Why Brett Kavanaugh is Not Truthful

Once again a group of attorneys who are afraid to admit uncertainty will engage in old school procedures to determine the ‘truth’. Yet, the truth can never be known as we guess who to believe through our filters of political bias. Both sides will go to great length to convince us who has the credibility in their ‘story’. And that’s all it is, a story, a memory or not from decades ago. This is a time where the Democrats need the famous general semanticist, Sen. S. I. Hayakawa. The Republicans are masters at shielding awareness through a number of divisive techniques:

Name calling. i.e. mixed up woman
Appealing to Authority, thinking a statement is true simply because it comes from a renowned authority.
Appeal to the Club, “proving “ a statement by pointing out that the majority of people consider it true.
Over confidence in an age-old belief or tradition, i.e. pushing patriarchy over the matriarch or the belief the full story can be found through Aristotelian logic.
Reasoning in a circle or ‘begging the question’, where one uses the assumption of truth to prove its own truth i.e. Brett is a man of impeccable character now so he must have been that way when in high school.
Arguing from ignorance. “I can’t recall the event you accused me of, so you must be lying.”
Exploitation of pity. “Brett has an outstanding career and a great future as one of our justices. He couldn’t have possibly committed the crime the accuser speaks of.” The factors outlined have nothing to do with whether or not he committed the crime.
Sincerity. We sometimes hear the expression, “Well, at least he’s sincere in his beliefs.” This is offered as a mitigating factor, as if sincerity necessarily enables a person or validates a belief. I suspect by now that Brett fully believes he didn’t do what Dr. Ford claims. I’m sure he’s a master at convincing others of his ‘story’. That’s all it is, his story. Yet, here we are again giving ear to an untruth when he claims complete denial. The event was not significant for him and lost in the plasticity of memory. I don’t dispute that he doesn’t recall the event. Most of us only recall a few very significant events from decades ago, let alone, weeks ago. The true test for this would be to research several events that took place when he was in high school and ask him to categorically confirm or deny their truth. At this point he could correct his ‘untruth’ to “I don’t recall”, the only plausible truthful response for this situation.
Irrelevant conclusion. Suppose we argue that Brett has a law degree, has served in the legal system for years, establishing the highest regard from the Federalist Society. Dr. Ford doesn’t earn as much money, hasn’t served in the legal system, and doesn’t have a law degree, so, therefore, we must conclude that Brett is telling the truth.
Composition. “Dr. Ford is a university instructor with ‘elite’ thinking and an advocate for women’s rights, therefore she’s simply a pawn for the Democrats.”
Division. Here we begin with a higher level of abstraction and identify with a lower. i.e. Paul is a citizen of the US, a wealthy country. In the fallacy division we then conclude that Paul possesses wealth too.
Appeals to the baser emotions of fear, hatred, pride, or greed. Canny manipulators well acquainted with crowd psychology have used their skills to arouse fear and resentment to whip up hatred. We’ll have plenty of this going around as today’s opinion media feeds on conflict, fear and anger.
Argumentative Leap. I might argue that A can act better than B, because A won an Oscar, whereas B has not. My statement only proves that more people voted for A.

There are several other techniques that shield us from awareness to the territory. Again, we’ll never have the full territory, only the most accurate maps we can construct. People enter our judicial system with ‘their map’. Many have convinced themselves of a new story. I’ve seen this play out too many times.

Trump’s old school power thinking of ‘deny, deny, deny’ ignores the truth. The only authentic, truthful answers we can provide are, “For me, this is what I recall or don’t recall”. Dr. Ford has a memory. She can only say, “For me, this is what I recall from that event decades ago.” The trauma of the event and the corroboration presented so far may have her in a more believable position. Yet, the real issue here is Brett’s categorical denial of an event he’s very likely forgotten. I suspect that if he had been raped by a man at that age it would clearly be in his memory. When you go from a black and white conclusion from decades of lapsed memory it’s clear to me he’s not the justice we need to serve in the intricacies of legal decisions that affect us all. At the very least, there is no option but for him to correct his denial and state, “I simply don’t recall that event.” Period.

Ref.: The Children of Prometheus by William Dallman

The Dali Lama says our main purpose here is to live in joy.  Brother David, a Benedictine monk, says we can always find joy in gratitude practice.  When asked, “Gratitude for what?”, he responds, “Gratitude for the opportunity to participate”.  I have my thoughts about how I got here, some concepts and theories that give me a sense of belonging.  Yet, when pushed to what I really know, the explicit answers have not come.  However, I do know that ‘I’ did not make me.  The heart that beats was a gift.  The lungs that breath were not my creation.  This very body that  continues to serve me took its first breath Sept 15, 1950.  It has not escaped disease and injury nor my periodic lapses of stewardship to its care.  And yes, I can get depressed when contemplating the inevitable moment when I will say goodbye to it.  Today, however, I’m filled with great joy for the opportunity to plan another birthday week filled with family, boardsport, nature, music and friends.  

Saturday:  Ride Blues Band reunion Washington Square,  White Bear Lake, MN  9-midnite

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