The real test of our ‘being’ can be a deeper looking at what we do and what we say.  Can we review our actions and words of the day and assess what was joining and what was separating?  Can we see where our level of ‘joining’ stopped?  Perhaps you felt very ‘joined’ with your church congregation during a Sunday service, but separated from those of a different religious belief system?  Perhaps you felt very ‘joined’ with members in your local community, but very separated from those in communities far away?  It seems as though we’re continually being worked to experience a larger sense of belonging as we face global climate issues, rapid economic change, global culture immigration and integration, and massive technological/communication advances.  We have a choice to move to ‘joining’ or ‘separating’, to accept others as ‘us’ in all of our apparent difference or to resist others as ‘us’, holding firm to our cultural belief systems and notions of ‘rightness’.

Ancient spiritual wisdom commands us to accept our enemy as ‘us’.  We’re told to move to the highest level of belonging, transcending our bias and judgment of others, embracing one another with a larger sense of joining.  The level of heart knowing lives here, in this more inclusive space that knows no boundaries.  This is very difficult work, particularly when we perceive threat and consequent feelings of fear.  Is the cancer cell in my body a ‘joined’ member of my community?  Is Osama bin Laden a ‘joined’ member of my community?  Do I carry a weapon to fight those who I perceive as threatening?  In essence, am I moving in love to a larger ‘joining’ or in fear to further separation?

I’m now almost sixty.

They say that’s when a life lived well brings one to elderhood.

Well, if anyone’s interested, here’s my ‘used to, but now’ reflection.

I used to think there were answers, now I find there’s just deeper questions

I used to think my job was to fix things, now I find it’s to be present and listen

I used to think I was right and my job was to change others to think like me

Now I find it’s better to meet in the field between ‘right’ and ‘wrong’

I used to hate being alone, now I find I’m never alone

I used to think I owned things, now I find I never did and never will

I used to think the good approval of friends and family made me better

Now I find it’s all up to me to make me (us) better

I used to hate it when I reached out to others and received no reply

Now I work to accept it

I used to be sloppy in my speech, now I learn it’s better to be quiet

I used to hold my speech in difficult situations, now I learn to listen deeply with my heart

To polish the meaning and purpose of what I say

I used to become angry with my enemies, now I learn they’re my gift for going deeper

I used to take things for granted, now I know nothing’s to be taken for granted

I used to think I was nobody, now I know I’m somebody

I used to think I was somebody, now I know I’m somebody else

I used to think God was ‘up there’, now I feel God everywhere

I used to think there was a goal, now I ‘feel’ there’s just the journey

I used to be filled with ambition, now I’m filled with duty to honor grace given

From where does my action or seeming inaction come from?  If I perceive threat from another desiring me to conform to their desire, what’s the shape of my resistance or allowance?  How can I cause the least harm to them as me or me as them?  In all instance, when my wisdom to act arises from the heart there’s a strong chance for positive result.  Contrarily, when I react from fear, or when my non-doing is fear based, the result is more likely to have an unpleasant result.

Are there any guarantees?  Absolutely not.  Yet, when we commit to the process of love and awakened ‘doing’ outside the realm of duality, we find that compassion and deeper listening are keys to diffusing potential threat.  This dedication to our interdependence upon one another sponsors our courage to show up, pay attention in awakened doing, responsibly do our best, and most importantly, to be easy on ourselves when things don’t turn out as we expected.

This is learning to live a life of love without grasping.  It’s knowing the elements support us…the ground, air, water, and fire.  It’s knowing there’s someone else inside of us that carries the wisdom of loving action, in harmony and rhythm to the flow of life.  The residence for this wisdom is in the heart, not the head or stomach.  Some have called this nonviolent mindfulness.  It’s a space of compassion,  where when I look in your eyes I experience me.  It’s a space of forgiveness, where I’m open to the completeness of the arising moment, no matter what comes up.  It’s a space of gratitude, where I’m forever aware that this form I carry is gift and all moments are surprise and gifts arising.

Trust no one, since it places expectation on another and leads to inevitable disappointment.  Love everyone.  Trust your heart’s knowing as you trust the universe.

Mountain...Just Be it. Snow...Just Be it. Rider...Just Be it.

Words can only point, abstractions we’ve arbitrarily agreed upon. They either facilitate or hinder our movement to the felt experience of our interconnection.  We often block our learning by insisting that meaning is in the word.  This is not the case, since we each bring our own unique experiences to language and we therefore conclude that meaning is in the person, not the word.  This is a foundational principle from the field of General Semantics.  Put another way, the map is not the territory.  This is emphasized in the Chinese story ‘Pointing at the Moon’.  A dedicated student asks a teacher to explain some difficult text.  The teacher claims he can’t read and the student questions the teacher’s credibility.  The teacher claims that the territory and words are unrelated, stating how the finger can be used to point out the moon, but you don’t need the finger to see the moon.  The teacher points out the absurdity in mistaking the words for the territory, in mistaking the finger for the moon.

The master athlete or musician can not find the words to accurately describe the felt unified experience when subject/object duality is transcended.  The linguistic barriers binding us to our sense of separateness have been released.  Our descriptions of ‘in the zone’, ‘flow’, ‘nirvana’, ‘bliss’, etc., can help us aim to this experience, yet that’s all they can do.  At some point the mind must surrender the abstractions of language, of time and space, and fully enter the present moment in the ‘feeling’ of the unified experience.  At this point it’s all Subject!  I am not my body, separate from other bodies.  I am not the wave rider, separate from the wave.  The felt experience of ‘being’ my body in other bodies, my body in the wave, my awareness in relation to everything, within ‘this precious moment’, is peace.  The felt experience of myself separate, bound in notions of language, time and space, is my restlessness.

I have not found lasting joy in attachments to notions of my separateness.  There’s a transitory pleasure that can come from comparing myself ‘better’ than another.  I have temporary moments of pleasure from ‘my’ achievements and accumulations, yet the Law of Impermanence eventually dissipates this joy and I once again face restlessness.  In the Subject relationship, I can’t ‘have’ anything since nothing can be owned, and I can’t ‘do’ anything without affecting everything.  The observation of energy dissipation (everything changes) and interdependence (everything is connected) leads to the core teaching of all spiritual traditions: Love one another as yourself because you are not separate from one another.  This teaching drives us to ‘not harm’ and hopefully to compassion, even for our perceived enemy.  When our actions move from the heart’s felt sense of connection (love), we steward the advance of life’s abundance.  When our actions move from the mind’s sense of fear and ignorance, we risk harm, claiming justification for collateral damage.  Just as breath practice is a conduit to move from the mind’s restlessness to the heart’s wisdom, so is the phrase ‘just be it’ a tool to move from our ‘doing’, ‘having’ duality to heart’s felt sense of presence and interconnection.

A study of the wave has often been used to distinguish our notions of separateness from a bigger sense of belonging.  Consider the small wave never knowing from where it came, suffering in relation to the much larger waves in its midst.  He considers himself so inferior to the other waves until another wave points out that he hasn’t seen his ‘original face’.  Asking who he is, the compassionate wave explains how the wave is just a temporary form, that all waves are just water.  Upon realizing that his fundamental essence was water, the small wave came to peace and he no longer suffered.  Many waves suffer all the way to crashing upon some distant shore, only to realize they’ve always been water and always will be water.  While great suffering comes from the subject vs. object relationship, our joy, peace and courage move from our ‘felt’ sense of interconnection and continuation.

The felt sense of ‘just be it’ is always there, available to us even in this moment.  Try it.  Breathing in, surrendering my notions of separateness, I affirm meeting this moment fully with the felt experience of gratitude for the opportunity to participate, “Yes”.  Breathing out I’m filled with joy in my expression of gratitude, “Thank you”.  We can cultivate our practice in deepening awareness (interconnection and impermanence) and gratitude in the “Yes” response or we can remain in our restlessness with “No” and failure to recognize the gift in the given experience or opportunity.  Put simply, can we meet ‘this moment’ in awareness to ‘the gift given’ in awareness to our ‘not separate’ experience, forever changing, arising moment to arising moment?  Easy words to say, but extremely difficult to apply with a disciplined practice.

So the direction is to diminish our subject vs. object orientation and consequent feelings of separation and restlessness and to enhance our all Subject orientation.  The linguistic based thoughts arising from ‘just do’ and ‘just have’ seem to foster the separated experience.  ‘Just be’ seems better suited to move us from the thought to the feeling for more considerate living in stewardship to the health of all as one.  Put another way, aware doing from the heart is great being.  Unaware doing from felt orientations of separation has great potential for harm (notions of fixing).  From this perspective, aware non-doing has great potential for moving us to considerate action with intention to harm none.  Just as the wave came to felt sense of connection as water, our actions change as we experience all things as us, interconnected, forever in change, yet never to disappear.  In peace and joy, this precious moment, please consider adding ‘just be it’ to your arsenal of tools that aim to break the subject vs. object barrier.

The real test of our ‘being’ can be a deeper looking at what we do and what we say. Can we review our actions and words of the day and assess what was joining and what was separating? Can we see where our level of ‘joining’ stopped? Perhaps you felt very ‘joined’ with your church congregation during a Sunday service, but separated from those of a different religious belief system? Perhaps you felt very ‘joined’ with members in your local community, but very separated from those in communities far away? It seems as though we’re continually being worked to experience a larger sense of belonging as we face global climate issues, rapid economic change, global culture immigration and integration, and massive technological/communication advances. We have a choice to move to ‘joining’ or ‘separating’, to accept others as ‘us’ in all of our apparent difference or to resist others as ‘us’, holding firm to our cultural belief systems and notions of ‘rightness’.

Ancient spiritual wisdom commands us to accept our enemy as ‘us’. We’re told to move to the highest level of belonging, transcending our bias and judgment of others, embracing one another with a larger sense of joining. The level of heart knowing lives here, in this more inclusive space that knows no boundaries. This is very difficult work, particularly when we perceive threat and consequent feelings of fear. Is the cancer cell in my body a ‘joined’ member of my community? Is Osama bin Laden a ‘joined’ member of my community? Do I carry a weapon to fight those who I perceive as threatening? In essence, am I moving in love to a larger ‘joining’ or in fear to further separation?